Posted by Gorilla
I thought I might throw this up for discussion and see where it takes us all.
I want to talk about DD, D/s, M/s, Sex, Hidden desires and why people struggle to come to terms with their needs and the ability to openly admit that they in fact have a need.
I find it quite intriguing and to a point amusing that a group of people can get together on a forum such as this and discuss spanking for discipline, the use of implements and some aspects of submission and dominance, most freely admitting that it is part and parcel of their sexuality. However the minute you mention that their need may go beyond just discipline the vast majority suddenly go quiet or shudder and respond with "ohh not me!".
Is the changing need that can develop from spanking for discipline, to purely and simply sexually motivated Dominance and submission including the pain associated to spanking etc any different to discovering the many other facets of sexual gratification.....................................(more on the 'D & L' forums, here...)
Posted by Gorilla
First of all I would like to thank Leah for hosting chat. It was a very interesting chat and most people seemed to be able to contribute.
Once again I was asked what exactly it is I mean by "subconscious submission"
It's hard to explain clearly in a chat room environment so I thought I would make the effort here.
To me it has nothing whatsoever to do with your choice of dynamic or specifics of your dynamic.
It's a basic development of growth within a relationship involving submission and dominance.
A lot of people start out with rules and desires expressed by both parties within the relationship and that's fine, but eventually there should be growth and the ability to move beyond a list of rules. IMO.....................................(more on the 'D & L' forums, here...)
Posted by AngelaH
What attracted you to the concept of DD in the first place?
Is it something you've always fantasized about, or was there something in your life or relationship that you felt could be helped or.....................(more on the 'D & L' forums, here...)
Posted by AngelaH
Do you envision your DD as more "rules based" and about taking care of conflict and problems in the relationship, or do you have a different "ideal" in mind when you think of DD?.....................(more on the 'D & L' forums, here...)
Posted by AngelaH
Do you feel that Dominant/submissive interaction plays a part in DD, or is it entirely separate?
If you do feel it plays a part, how does that balance out for you, and how would you define the D/s element?.....................(more on the 'D & L' forums, here...)
Posted by AngelaH
As you have progressed in your DD relationship, have you found that the D/s element has become more natural and pronounced? If so, in what ways has that manifested itself?...................(more on the 'D & L' forums, here...)
Posted by AngelaH
If your DD has stayed mostly "rules based", do you find that it has improved your communication and brought you closer as a couple, in addition to simply resolving conflicts and keeping order?...................................(more on the 'D & L' forums, here...)
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